I would like to thank my friend,
Greg Finke (pastor at Gloria Dei Lutheran Church, Houston, TX) for his "Good Morning Church" piece I received this morning. Good stuff!
"Ephesians 5:25, "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her."
Ephesians 6:4, "Fathers, bring your children up in the training and instruction of the Lord."
Yesterday was an awesome Father's Day celebration at
Gloria Dei. We talked about some simple practices that have surprising results in refreshing our lives. In marriages that are strong and spiritually vital, and in families that are full of joy and Jesus, there is a common denominator: a husband and father who is quietly taking the spiritual lead in his family. There is something about the way God designed the family that makes the husband and father's simple actions and quiet convictions very powerful for his wife and children. We can ignore this design, deny it or even rebel against it. Or we can trust it, align ourselves with it and be blessed. Your choice. So choose well. Men often get the willies when they hear that God looks to them to be the spiritual leaders of their families. And women, who have been let down or even abused by the men in their lives can easily be skeptical as well. Who could blame them? They should have been able to count on the men God placed in their lives. However, much of this confusion comes from a misunderstanding of what God had in mind when he wired men and designed their families to prosper as he humbly takes up the spiritual headship in his family.
What does it mean to be the spiritual leader in the family?
- It does not mean he knows all the right answers to Bible trivia questions.
- It does not mean he prays the most eloquent prayers.
- It does not mean he is supposed to impose his will and opinions on the rest of the family like
some kind of bully.
Being the spiritual leader of the family simply means the husband/father loves Jesus openly and does his best to follow him as a man of God. If we men do this, it blesses our families powerfully. Micah 6:8, "The Lord has showed you, O man, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God."
We men have underestimated the powerful difference we could make in our families if we simply loved Jesus openly and tried our best to walk humbly with our God. Likewise, we men need to realize that we are already leading powerfully in our families, whether we acknowledge it or not. We are either leading our wives and children toward Jesus or away from Him. Our action or inaction is already having a profound effect on our families. So, by being more open in your love for Jesus and more intentional in your desire to follow Him (even though we often fall short), you will bless your family deeply.
Men, here are three simple practices that will transform your marriage and family:
1) Spend the first 15 minutes of your day being filled up with the love your Heavenly Father already has for you. Listen to Him (Bible), talk with Him (prayer), and then believe and receive Him (silence and reflection). With your heart re-filled with His love, you are ready for the next two practices.
2) Every morning, take the hand of your wife and pray for her. Keep it simple. But do it daily. Fill her up every morning with the love you have received from the Father. Ephesians 3:16, "I pray that the Father may strengthen you with power through His Spirit in your inner being..."
3) Every morning, take your children into your arms, put your hands on them, and bless them (speak life-giving words into them). No matter how old your children are, they will always long for your love and blessing. Mark 10:16, "And Jesus took the children in His arms, put His hands on them and blessed them."
The Kingdom of God is the upper room of every home. Men, open the door for your wife and children every day. Be a reason they are blessed!"